Posted by: alinesoules | November 25, 2013

Widows are Never Alone

I’ve been widowed almost 15 years now and one thing I’ve learned along the way is that I am not alone.  We all know that women are widowed more often than men, but I didn’t know how much until about 7-8 years ago, when I did research for 41kRIP-3STL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_an article and learned from the U.S. Census that there are approximately 13 million people widowed in the U.S. each year, 2 million of whom are men and 11 million of whom are women.  That’s quite a difference.  At the moment, I’m completing a chapbook on a widow’s journey, but in the meantime, I’ve been privileged to have a piece included in The Widow’s Handbook:  Poetic Reflections on Grief and Survival, edited by Jacqueline Lapidus and Lise Menn.  It’s a collection of poetry from 87 American women of all ages, legally married or not, straight and gay, whose partners or spouses have died.  It speaks to the universality of going from two to one and how we can manage and learn from it.  No matter how hard the journey or how much we think we’ll never be able to cope, hearing from these voices reassures us that it is possible not only to grieve and survive, but make new lives for ourselves.


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